Archive for the ‘adoption’ Category

I thought I would share with you some brief excerpts from the autobiographical piece I wrote for the adoption process.  I picked a paragraph or two from the sections about my wife, our marriage, and my daughter.  Hope you enjoy.

I. Meeting my Wife

It was during my second year of law school that I met my future wife. My law school was literally located between giant corn fields in Ohio. (more…)

Well there is lots of stuff to catch up on so maybe I should say something like, “Coming this Week”

First I have to “dance with the one that brung me” and get back to some good old fashioned weight loss blogging. I have gotten a bit off track and forgotten my Excel spread sheets for the last few days. Well, I plan on bringing them back. I am also putting together a new post on sex and exercise (related to the VERY popular sexercise post– now viewed over 4,200 times) that will come with an interesting challenge. (more…)

Although most of the big ticket items of the adoption process are being paid for by L.F.S. and grants from the state, we are still facing a significant amount of costs for various and sundry things ranging from a fire inspection to medical exams. After you read through this list, I ask that you please add the prayer requests (listed at the conclusion of this post) to your prayers for the next several days. (more…)

Well here is the first (and quite incomplete) version of our introduction book. Tell me what you think. Anything we should take out? Add in? Anything you particularly like or dislike? Drop a comment and let me know. And since I can’t resize this, just click on the link to see the whole 14 or so slide presentation.

My Scrapblog

Well the spare room is almost completely painted- the doors need a third coat of paint. With that done we can start putting together our introduction book.  What is an introduction book you might ask?  Well even if you didn’t you are about to find out.  The Introduction book is a scrapbook that showcases your family (immediate and extended), home, and neighborhood to both social workers and potential adoptive children.  It provides them a way to get to know you and your family during the initial stages of the adoption process AND it can assist social workers as they decide whether a child is a good fit for your home and family.  Moreover, it is a great way to get family involved in the adoption process (parents, grandparents, uncles, cousins, etc.).  The prospective table of contents for our Introduction book looks something like this (more…)

Well I ran out this morning and picked up a gallon or so of brilliant white semi-gloss paint, some assorted painting supplies, and a few other sundry items at the local Wal-mart. My goal for the day, to paint the spare bedroom. But the room didn’t just need a coat of paint, oh no, it needed much more. How much more?! (more…)

Our spare room.  This simple 12 x 14 foot space has served many functions during the last two years.  It has been a study, a guest bedroom, a semi-permanent bedroom, and also a general dumping ground for boxes.  Well, now this room finally has a higher purpose.

Sometime in the next 6 months or so this room will become the bedroom of whichever child(ren) we adopt from North Carolina’s foster care system.  And to be quite frank, I couldn’t be happier.  Of course the futon has to go (if you have $25, it’s yours).  The dresser is an advance purchase.  The walls will need a new coat of paint- probably white so we can let our adoptive child(ren) pick out the colors for their room.  We will also no doubt need some new furniture (bed, another dresser, mirror, etc.).

In case you are just tuning in, I posted on here a while back about how my wife and I came to the decision that we needed to open our home and hearts to a child or children presently in the North Carolina foster care system.  [The initial post about adoption, clearing up misconceptions, and also how God has blessed us since].  We are now only two classes away from completing our MAPP training course with Lutheran Family Services.  The classes have been wonderful, our instructors fabulous, and the information has been eye-opening.  The sadness and misery that abound around us, from sexual abuse to neglect directed toward children, is deeply depressing and tragically all too common.

Once MAPP training is over it is on to the home-study- a period when the social worker comes into our home and conducts a series of interviews with all of us (Sasha included).  We also have tons of info and documentation to get together, including: marriage license, birth certificates, tax forms, autobiographies.  In addition we need to pay for a fire inspection- and no doubt buy a fire extinguisher, smoke detectors, etc.

This whole process has been such a blessing.  If you feel led to help us out with the costs of this adoption- which luckily have been quite minimal thus far- just click on the “Be a Part of our Dream” link on the top right corner of this blog.  The link will take you to PayPal where you can donate whatever you feel might led to.  Of course donations are NOT tax deductible, but they will be GREATLY appreciated by myself and my family.  And even more importantly, please keep us in your prayers as we go through this complicated but rewarding process.

Once we’ve completed the home-study we will be ready to begin the process of being matched by our social worker with children who they think might fit well into our home.  Whoever that child (or those children) might be I hope they like the view from their window.

And an even better view- but with my reflection included (not a ghost)

If you have any stories about adoption to share feel free to take up as much comment space as you like.  thanks for your prayers and support.

I am currently suffering from a lot of pain in my chest and shoulder.  This pain isn’t anything like a pulled muscle.  No, it is identical to the pain I experienced last year when I found out I had Shingles.  However, this pain is on the opposite side of my body.  I can feel pain shoot across the nerve from the middle of my chest to my right shoulder.  The pain gets so bad it is almost paralyzing for a few seconds.

Pray for me that this isn’t shingles, and shingles was a pretty miserable disease AND the anti-viral drugs were quite expensive.   Also, pray this isn’t anything worse than shingles.  Thanks in advance for your prayers and kind comments.

What will I be posting over the coming week (assuming my shoulder doesn’t get worse)?

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I would have posted earlier, but my wife didn’t want me to blog about these blessings until we watched them play out a bit more.  However, I can’t contain my joy any longer and after spilling the beans to Neil over at 4Simpsons a week ago, I am going to share God’s gracious actions in our life with all of you.

As all of you who read this blog know, my wife and I have decided to pursue adoption.   Our choice (and our agreement) resulted from a rather miraculous experience- and I don’t mean simply the miracle of getting your wife to agree with you (you know what I mean husbands).

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Well I wanted to clear the air and post on the adoption plans my wife and I have formed over the last week.

First of all, we are at the very initial stages of this process. We are only one week removed from the realization that we are interested in pursuing adoption (and especially information about adoption). We haven’t contacted a homestudy, nor are we even within a year of adopting a child. We have a lot of stuff in our personal finances to straighten out first.

Furthermore, contrary to what seems to be the presumption, we are not planning to adopt a baby. Nor are we planning to adopt from outside the United States. From the first time we spoke of the opportunity to adopt, we never mentioned adopting a baby. We both felt led that we should adopt a child from North Carolina’s foster care system.

We looked through local and national websites that provided information on foster children currently waiting for adoption. I can understand some of the resentment that folks have against the adoption of babies, but those same problems don’t seem to apply to children in the foster care system.

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