Although most of the big ticket items of the adoption process are being paid for by L.F.S. and grants from the state, we are still facing a significant amount of costs for various and sundry things ranging from a fire inspection to medical exams. After you read through this list, I ask that you please add the prayer requests (listed at the conclusion of this post) to your prayers for the next several days. Fire Inspection = $40

Becoming Compliant with Fire Inspection:

  1. 2 smoke detectors = $21
  2. 1 fire extinguisher = $14

Criminal Background Checks = $15 x 2 = $30

Ordering Birth Certificates = $10

Medical Exams = 3 x $45 co-pay= $135

*Potential Cost* Home Study = $2700

This cost will only be incurred if we adopt outside of Lutheran Family Services (L.F.S.) adoption network but still within the state of North Carolina. As of now, the child we have been praying about is living in a home that is outside of the L.F.S. network. She might or might not be available for adoption when we finish our home study 6 or so weeks from now. There is a chance we can get a grant to cover this and I am looking into it so we can be prepared if it is necessary.  I will let you know more when we finish our  home study.

Prepping his/her Room = Paint and various supplies $55; furniture $450; general repairs $75. ($580)

Total = w/out home study $830; w/ home study $3,530.

Money is always tight in the summer since my university job leaves me without a paycheck from May 1st to August 30th. As always we are relying on God to provide as the need arises. When we started this process God went so far as to have several people hand us envelopes with cash in them. God provided then, and I have faith he will provide now.

BLOG FLASHBACK [July 25th, 2007]: Ever since then something strange has been happening. Several weeks ago, we realized how bad our finances were (living for two months on one months worth of pay). I told my wife to have faith, God would provide. She muttered under her breath that the only way it would happen was if someone walked up and gave us money.

If you want to help us out financially just click here to send something via PayPal. For those of you who know me and would rather cut out the middle man and send a check via regular mail, just send me an email at and I will reply with the street address. Thanks for all your prayers and support as we go through this stressful but incredibly rewarding process.

In addition, please pray that

  1. God prepare our family emotionally, spiritually, and financially for the child He desires us to raise
  2. God prepare the child before she/he comes into our home. To make the process peaceful, comfortable, and without incident for him/her.
  3. God provides the wisdom to deal with whatever difficulties arise during the transition process.
  4. Our friends and family are blessed with the patience and virtues necessary to be a healthy and beneficial part of this process as well.
  5. Most important, that we are led by God’s will in selecting and matching with the right child(ren), and not by our own selfish desires. Not our will, but his be done.
  1. Kori says:

    I don’t know how you stumbled onto my blog this morning, but thanks for the kind comment. And I have been going through your posts and want to tell you that if I had money, I would be sending it to you in a second. All I have to offer are prayers, and even though it is obvious we are different “kinds” of Christians, we still both serve the same God, and your words have touched me deeply this morning. So thank you.

  2. Your prayers are more than enough. Thank you so much.

  3. BTW I stumbled in through a link. Don’t remember where though.

  4. Randy says:

    Not sure if I mentioned this before, but I noticed you’re adding smoke detectors. Be sure to talk to you insurance company, they used to give price breaks for this. It wasn’t enough to pay for the smoke detectors, but every little bit helps. You may break even in 2-3 years, but it’s something you should have anyway.

    Also ask the insurance company about dead bolt locks, fire extinguishers, and any other savings you might get.

  5. Thanks for the info, I will look into it.

  6. Mirah Riben says:

    Have you tried adopting through state social services?

  7. Hi Mirah! Basically we are. L.F.S. offers the same services and is compensated by the state for their services. However, the costs we are looking to cover are the incidental costs that happen to hit hard in the summer time. It is an odd twist that we have the time in summer to take classes and get everything done, but we lack the money. Anyone else ever have that problem with other issues in their life- plenty of time and not enough money, and then plenty of money but not enough time?

    Thanks for stopping by Mirah. I hope you come back again.

  8. BTW Mirah, I thought your site was really interesting. I will check and see if my local library has any copies of your books. We wrestled with those issues when choosing to adopt. We ultimately decided on adopting from the foster care system for a host of reasons I’ve discussed elsewhere on this blog.

    We do feel much better knowing that our adoptive son or daughter will have known their parent(s) and so that won’t be an issue of secrecy. At the same time it is disheartening that their parents will have made poor choices (drugs, alcohol, etc.) that led to the loss of their child- and often to abuse those children suffered at the hands of their parents or others. I am very thankful that our adoption counselors have been very honest about what to expect when it comes to behavioral and other issues. There is no rosy picture here. We know there will be tough times and struggles, but like all things in life, we will persevere and do all that is within our power to raise all our children to the best of our abilities.

  9. Mirah Riben says:

    Thank you.

    I hope that you will allow continued openness between the chidlren and their natural family members.

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