Our Adoption Story: A Room We Can’t Wait to Fill

Posted: June 3, 2008 in adoption, answered prayer, attitude, blogging, challenge, change, charity, child, children, conviction, faith, family, life, Me, my life
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Our spare room.  This simple 12 x 14 foot space has served many functions during the last two years.  It has been a study, a guest bedroom, a semi-permanent bedroom, and also a general dumping ground for boxes.  Well, now this room finally has a higher purpose.

Sometime in the next 6 months or so this room will become the bedroom of whichever child(ren) we adopt from North Carolina’s foster care system.  And to be quite frank, I couldn’t be happier.  Of course the futon has to go (if you have $25, it’s yours).  The dresser is an advance purchase.  The walls will need a new coat of paint- probably white so we can let our adoptive child(ren) pick out the colors for their room.  We will also no doubt need some new furniture (bed, another dresser, mirror, etc.).

In case you are just tuning in, I posted on here a while back about how my wife and I came to the decision that we needed to open our home and hearts to a child or children presently in the North Carolina foster care system.  [The initial post about adoption, clearing up misconceptions, and also how God has blessed us since].  We are now only two classes away from completing our MAPP training course with Lutheran Family Services.  The classes have been wonderful, our instructors fabulous, and the information has been eye-opening.  The sadness and misery that abound around us, from sexual abuse to neglect directed toward children, is deeply depressing and tragically all too common.

Once MAPP training is over it is on to the home-study- a period when the social worker comes into our home and conducts a series of interviews with all of us (Sasha included).  We also have tons of info and documentation to get together, including: marriage license, birth certificates, tax forms, autobiographies.  In addition we need to pay for a fire inspection- and no doubt buy a fire extinguisher, smoke detectors, etc.

This whole process has been such a blessing.  If you feel led to help us out with the costs of this adoption- which luckily have been quite minimal thus far- just click on the “Be a Part of our Dream” link on the top right corner of this blog.  The link will take you to PayPal where you can donate whatever you feel might led to.  Of course donations are NOT tax deductible, but they will be GREATLY appreciated by myself and my family.  And even more importantly, please keep us in your prayers as we go through this complicated but rewarding process.

Once we’ve completed the home-study we will be ready to begin the process of being matched by our social worker with children who they think might fit well into our home.  Whoever that child (or those children) might be I hope they like the view from their window.

And an even better view- but with my reflection included (not a ghost)

If you have any stories about adoption to share feel free to take up as much comment space as you like.  thanks for your prayers and support.

  1. theepiphany says:

    AH! I’m so thrilled to hear you’re adopting!! What a powerful impact you will be able to make, God Bless this wonderful decision!!

  2. Teresa says:


    One of my good friends and his partner fostered a child with the intent to adopt. They had this child for the better part of two years. He was somewhat troubled, but after they had worked with him for a wile, he came around.

    However, just before they adopted him, he made the decision to try to work things out with his biological mother/step-dad.

    He moved on to another foster home, and is still in contact with them.

    Heartbreaking for them, but perhaps better for the child in the long run…as an important but wounded relationship might be repaired.

    They can at least be proud of their part in helping him work through his bitterness and disappointment to be able to reach out again.

    You and your family have my best wishes and my respect for risking this great adventure. It will probably take you many places that you do not expect.

  3. Neil says:

    Blessings to you and your family! I was adopted at birth and have lots of others in our circle of friends and family with positive adoption experiences.

    I think that sometimes people take an adoption experience and project all the good and bad of life onto that, but the fact is that child-rearing has elements that are dicey and there are good and bad things no matter what.

    It is a consistent them in the Bible as well, with literal and figurative adoptions throughout.

  4. Thanks “epiph,” Terese, and Neil. We are really looking forward to this. We know to expect the path to be hard at times, and that it definitely won’t be easy, but we are sure that in the end it will be rewarding.

    I for one must admit, I can’t wait to take my son(s)/daughter(s) to school with me sometime next year. Who knows, maybe they will also develop a love for history. 😉 After seeing my lectures they probably will- or perhaps that is just a bit of vanity creeping in.

  5. Stiletto says:

    TT! Awesome and God Bless!

  6. Thanks Stiletto. Right back at ya’ 🙂

  7. Randy says:

    What a neat idea. I had a good friend in Charlotte who did the foster parent thing and adopted 4 or 5 (he always had more kids than anyone else). Once his wife went to pick up an infant from the hospital and called to tell him she was stopping at Wal Mart to buy diapers and formula and it was going to cost him a lot of money.

    Someone asked if he would adopt and he said “I hope so, our youngest is two and that’s just not a baby” (his name was John too – something about that name?)

    Congratulations in advance!!

  8. Randy says:

    I forgot the most important thing to tell you. About 10 years ago, I had the privelege of writing a letter to an adoption agency for prospective parents. They were going through a SC based Christian adoption agency who checked references in detail. I was nervous and proud to be asked (I had a limited time to respond and was moving at the time).

    I still get Christmas cards from the family and I feel like an uncle. I do know they ran into some problems when the birth mother had some change of heart, but it worked out in the end (sorry, I don’t have details). They’ve since adopted another one, not sure if it was in NC or SC. They now live in the Fayetteville area.

    Honest to goodness, when they asked me for a reference, I was flattered.

  9. Well the children we are looking into adopting have had parental rights revoked/eliminated by the North Carolina courts. So hopefully, birth parents won’t be too much of an issue.

  10. Petuni says:

    How exciting! We had one of these, computer room, storage, extra closet type rooms too….I never wanted to fix it into a child’s room – I was afraid too…..too much wishing and hoping type thing. We applied and got a call that we would have a baby in a week! You never saw redecoration happen so fast…..like that show Trading Spaces man – whoooop and it was done. Then, when the baby/child comes you change things as you go — nice to let the child(ren) decide what they want and make them feel at home. Rooting for you!!!! Can’t wait to see it filled with toys and personal affects of the child(ren) —– hope it is (ren)!

  11. Kori says:

    I chose adoption for one child 11 years ago, and know that people like the family I chose, and yours, are really a blessing, in more ways than you can know.

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