I love the beginning of a new week. Each new week carries with it the promise of a fresh change, a new start, a chance to get over the day you ate two donuts- the chocolate kind that are covered in chocolate frosting. But ideally, my view (our view) of each day should be the same. Heck, why not each minute?

All of us would transform and grow at a more rapid pace if we could put our shame behind us quicker. Too many of us wallow in our mistakes and end up repeating them over and over. We bear shame that is far too heavy for our shoulders and as a result we keep our faces in the same dirt that brought us shame in the first place.

For some it is that day they went overboard and had a whole pizza, with BBQ wings, regular (not diet) Coca-Cola, and half an apple pie with ice cream on the side. After that day they (possibly you) say, “Why bother? ”  That voice of shame says, “You’re not going to be able to control your appetite.”

For some it might be the lies they told or the sheer weight of their own sin, that bears down on their back. That same voice of shame whispers in our ears, “You’ll never be good enough. You don’t deserve (insert here whatever your goal might be).”

Luckily, that voice of shame is wrong. You don’t blow a whole diet by eating poorly one day- heck you don’t even blow it by eating poorly one day a week. Step back and look at the totality of your choices. You might blow it one day a week, but what about the other six? None of us is perfect. So if your life is marked (for the most part) by positive movement toward your goals you haven’t blown it.

Because it isn’t that one day, that one mistake that ruins our diet, that ruins our walk with God, or our career. Most often it is the inordinate amount of time we spend dwelling on that mistake, refusing to learn from it, and consequently repeating it over and over.

Leave your mistake(s) behind you. Don’t forget them, but learn from them, and move on with your life or your diet. There is something at the other end that is well worth the pain and self-denial. I can tell you from where I stand, right about half-way, I am so happy about all I have achieved. I am also so excited about all the mountains left to climb.

  1. Great post, John.

    One of the great things about life is that we do have the opportunity to start fresh.


  2. mommyzabs says:

    Good stuff. Esp. on a monday 🙂
    2 Cor. 7:10
    Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death.

    Shame is often worldly sorrow,
    where as true guilt given over to God brings salvation and thus freedom. Repentance is turning away from the action and toward God.
    Shame often causes us to make the same mistakes again.

  3. Wayne Park says:

    thanx for the post.. good thoughts on a sensitive issue…

  4. Michelle says:

    I agree with this as well. Although, I often find that most people who make mistakes often make excuses for them instead of learning from them. It is the wise person who takes these mistakes and uses them to build up their character. Thanks for your thoughts.

  5. Justin says:

    very eloquent way to get your thoughts across


  6. breederx says:

    That’s an awesome post! Thanks 🙂

  7. Lynn says:

    Good entry, thanks for the read!

    Infants learn from their mistakes and blame no one. Somehow, as we “mature”, mistakes often take on a life of their own and they become the fault of someone else. The “blame game” is not a fair game, is not moral, and is not productive. If only we could remember our own infant stage and learn the most important lesson: to get up after a fall and to walk correctly….

  8. Wow, you’re always good for a “make-ya-think” post, aren’t you?

    Great, as usual!!

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